NEIGHBOUR’S PRIDE – OWNER’S ENVY (24-Dec-2020)
“Neighbour’s Envy, Owner’s Pride” was Onida TV’s tagline which enraptured the hearts of Indian families around mid-80s. Onida’s green devil sported horns with a ludicrous laugh, frightful fingernails, and a threatening tail that vaulted into our houses through their brand of TV set. This unconventional ad campaign catapulted the sales of our own Indian product, backed by quality and snazzy looks. It was an instant hit with school kids, much to the chagrin of their parents, who dressed-up unabashedly as the devil in their school fancy-dress competitions. The devil indeed ruled the roost!
Thirty-five years on, the modern-day city life has triggered a twist to the above tagline. My parents own an independent house and prided on the ample parking in front of their house. Our city grew the residential area activities as well, any lung space on our roads indeed a rarity. Space to park a two-wheeler are magically converted into a four-wheeler parking slot; the driver disappears with utter disdain with pain he has inflicted on the residents. Once used to be an owner’s pride transformed into a matter of envy!
We fell two old and termite-infested trees at the two ends of our compound in front of our house and planted young trees – Parijata or night-flowering jasmine and Devakanagale (Plumeria). Neighbourhood walkers left their trash bags around these plants which caused nuisance, and hence we built a concrete platform around them to act as a deterrent. Now the neighbours who walk their dogs allowed them to go around these platforms that has created a stench, but to our distaste the fragrant flowers are picked too. Our prized possession no doubt, today relegated to our neighbours pride and our own envy!
Increased disposable income have helped Indian families to flaunt their wealth both within and outside their houses. Many houses have a monitor inside hooked to a camera outside to track any suspicious movements. A neighbour of ours prided the display of bright bloomed and colourful flowers in their front planters’ boxes. However, folks in the neighbourhood found this as their ‘perfect spot’ as they posed and re-posed for the selfie clicks to adore their own social-media wall as well plucked the beautiful flowers that created a mayhem of sorts. A view of the recordings being the root cause of misery – neighbours’ many pride moments but an owner’s envy!
It is beyond my rationale mind to grasp the obsession that some people pluck flowers from other people’s garden and offer to propitiate their Gods at home. A senior citizen lady who is the owner of a large mansion in our neighbourhood is habituated to pluck flowers during her evening walks - a kleptomaniac? I had noticed that she had plucked flowers from our planters’ box too. One day though, she dug her hand deep, as I watched helplessly from the window, into the soil and pulled our most favourite begonia plant with its roots. I accosted her and her walk mate as she turned our street and asked her in a humble manner if she had plucked anything from our garden. The stolen plant in a plastic bag held behind her back, she answered in the negative which prompted me to raise my voice. She offered the plant back to me but with no remorse. I had no choice but to order her to plant it back to where it belonged and water it too.
A Neighbour’s pride and an Owner’s
envy situation was indeed reversed!
Interesting incidents and nice observations! Enjoyed reading.
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Thanks... it's these observations that make for nice experiences...
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Nicely written Prasanna :) I enjoyed reading it.. reminded of yesteryears and funny incidents with 'kleptomaniacs' :)
ReplyDeleteHe he... thanks Srinath....80s will be memories for all of us....
DeleteTrue Prasanna.
ReplyDeleteSimilar experiences here. One of the houses here even has a board that says "No Parking. No dog shitting" !!
The flower pluckers twisted' logic is that they are making you a part of the "puNya" by offering your lovingly grown flowers to their deities :-)
He he...Anu it's worrisome that dog walkers don't care....
DeleteAa puNya i don't want...i want direct honest path....
The bitter truth. We need attitudinal change. Progress happens only then.
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Thanks Shankar...very true and we need change all around us
DeleteVery aptly written Prassanna. Its a concrete Jungle everywhere,Hence nature is taking revenge in form of various calamities and diseases
ReplyDeleteYou bet on that... thanks a lot for stopping by and for your comments
DeleteOld habits die hard!! And also carried overseas!!
ReplyDeleteSome time back on a festival day, saw a man drop off his aged father in an Avenue in my city. Driving back after 20 minutes or so, I saw the uncle waiting for his son, in his hand a plastic bag full of flowers , all pulled from city maintained sidewalk and center divider!!
Oh my.... that's true brain drain...
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I think most people can relate to this
ReplyDeleteIn our city surroundings most definitely yes... thanks a lot
DeleteVery well written, Prasanna! Sharing the booty as long as it is someone else's has become the norm!
ReplyDeleteThank you.... that's so true
DeleteGood one Prasanna. These practices are restricted to the early hours of the morning when the Sun is still not up and visibility is poor. Probably the people who do this pick the early hours in order to conceal their identity, which is already concealed sufficiently well by a mufler strung across their faces or a snugly fitting monkey cap which conceals their identities completely!!
ReplyDeleteAdding to your observations is another practice of the early birds - walking with gay abandon with blaring music from their transistors, mostly the Suprabhat from MSS, much to the annoyance of fellow walkers. Owner's pride, fellow walkers agony.
Keep them coming - Prasad
Thank you Prasad... yes all your observations are true. Watching these folks go after those flowers in other people's compound is a lot of fun
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Thank God you have garden to have plant. In housing societies people have flower pots hanging from balconies and you to enjoy water droplet and other things like mud etc. To my surprise some people offer water to sun from upper floor. Seems like people are in confused state.
ReplyDeleteAnyways! this is life and we should enjoy this.
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DeleteVery true apartments are a diff story altogether...
Yes life's experiences are very wholesome...
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Hello Prasanna Sir, Its Avinash Sharma. I changed it to my name, but seems could not reflect. Nice Article...
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Deletevery true. How it hurts for us to see the flowers disappear. I have seen once a parent wanted to entertain his kid by letting him ruthlessly pluck flowers from my garden. Similarly at my parents house full grown plants along with the pots kept on the compound walls disappear overnight forcing us to install cameras.
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There you go... we are all victims if not witness of the same...
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Early morning theft of flowers by old women walking through our neighbourhood while the residents slept made me wonder that they haven't been inculcated good morals from childhood at home and what a wrong attitude to have that these stolen flowers are used to worship their gods! God expects his children to worship him with a sincere, humble heart, speaking the truth while we thank Him and make our requests known to Him. I recently had neighbours who taught their children that "white lies" with others are okay to get out of trouble, little realising that their children would do the same to them as they're habituated to lying. Slowly, a "by hook or crook" attitude is gaining in society as if the ends justify the means, not knowing that this is just a short-term gain but disastrous in the long-term, as they will eventually realise their folly. Integrity is a critical moral value to be inculcated from childhood by elders and teachers to make better citizens of this nation. 🙏
ReplyDeleteUncivilized people are on increase.
ReplyDeleteAnd we claim we live in a civilized society....thanks for stopping by and leaving behind your comments
DeleteExcellent Prasanna - very well written - I can relate to this as well since we are blessed with a nice garden - we also deal with the menace of neighbors walking around and plucking flowers from others' gardens. When confronted, they justify their act claiming that is for their Pooja at home 🤔🤔🤔
ReplyDeleteWhen will we inculcate the feeling of "Nityotsava" - like our beloved poet Nisar Ahmad ji soulfully depicted in his famous poem - why do we have to offer stolen flowers to Gods
Madhukar: Understand your predicament.....God will be happy if you offer your own flowers - grown or purchased. But then people derive vicarious pleasure in this act of stealing.....
DeleteMay good sense prevail in our society. Thanks for your comments....
'Law of Unintended Consequences' at work here? Hence the surprise, the indignity and a sense of 'how can they do this' implied here. Regards - KSM
ReplyDeleteYou are absolutely right Murthy sir.....many an unintended yielding results and many an intended yielding wrong or no results.....
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On the contrary Pras, this takes me back to KGF where every house had a beautiful garden with very colourful flowers and many fruit trees in every house..... so no one in the colony ever had the need to 'steal' flowers. This is the CITY OF JOY😏
ReplyDeleteUTOPIA......we all aspire for but it never happens. When everything is in abundance then where is the need to steal?
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We as a society are intolerant to many things whether it is parking cars or plucking flowers. The use of adjective ' kleptomaniac' for stealing flowers is a little too harsh. Shedding obsessive possession is the need of the hour.
ReplyDeleteHence my question mark too ;-) Intolerance seems to be taking momentum around us in the society for just about all activities. You are right but the need to shed has to come from within......
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Utter disregard to fellow citizens or their properties has been ingrained into our psyche. People think nothing of blocking your entrance with their vehicles. Yes, a true reversal indeed of the popular advert! Well written.
ReplyDeleteThanks deshabhaktarre.....the intent is what matters the most is what some argue and justify the offering to the Lord. But the tent in them is pegged so hard to reverse this habit is opposed.....the smaller evil for a larger good seems to be their argument...
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Smaller the evil in a trivial issue which is harmless, larger the need to train the mind to overlook is essential with reference to the adjective used. The adjective here refers to older women and it is upto to present generation to display tolerance and not interpret as a crime.
DeleteI would like to.......but I want to look at the basic intent and what caused them to behave that way. May be the values inculcated by their elders.......like in my earlier response to a post by friend Rajendra the values are compromised.....
DeleteHence the need to look at every aspect and not just this act of plucking neighbours flowers...
Hahaha..Very familiar scene indeed! We had a mango tree in our Kochi house - with branches leaning out of the compound and all the mangoes on 'that side' was clearly ' public ka mangoes'☺️. Recently we arranged to chop it off as there were parasite plants growing strongly, our neighbour across 'PROTESTED'
ReplyDeleteNicely written Prasanna👍
Flowers to fruits to even family members can be targets or should we say victims.... an owner's envy....
DeleteMangoes are precious though....
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Damn good article, Prass. I enjoyed it to.the hilt as it transported.me to 1980's - an era we relished most.
ReplyDeleteYour presentation, as usual, has indeed triumphed this time too, needless to.mention my prayers and good wishes are with you forever to enthrall us in the days and years to come.Keep it up, mari!
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DeleteVery vivid description and down to earth experience .
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Thank you very much Suresh.....all of us are witness to such experiences.....appreciate...
DeleteWow! Wow!! This is a masterpiece of yours!! You chose the right topic and the narrative is very witty and sensible
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DeleteYou always come up with something Very heart touching message
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DeleteUrge to posses the beautiful thing all to oneself appears to win over... but directly confronting is the only way to tame it as you did.
ReplyDeleteNicely captured Prasanna and like how you bring out subtle topics that hover about.
Joma thank you buddy.....the topics are that much brighter and colourful due to motivating comments from friends like you. Cherish the comments each time and every time.....
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Very relatable situation, especially in our country's context. I guess the deteriorating chalta hai attitude has made plucking flowers for an offering in prayers, to uprooting a plant to keep as one's own okay. Modifying the old saying to, "Give me a fish and I eat for a day, take your fishtank and I eat for a lifetime". :)
ReplyDeleteSanjaya Uwacha....thanks a lot buddy....Chalta hai attitude has been our downfall while it may have helped us in a few areas....
DeleteNow who's eyeing for a fishtank?! Not me for sure....neither are you...but then we have to watch 1.4 billion others ;-)
True, but Jatharth Raja, tathrath Praja.
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