POLITICALLY CORRECT – I’M CHALLENGED (16-Apr-2021)
Relevant to this write-up, an apt saying from a well-known philosopher “A gentle word, a kind look, a good-natured smile can work wonders and accomplish miracles.”
A new era…it is the ‘politically correct’ era or so the ‘intelligentsia’
claims. Our sensitivity quotient should
not be measured by the western-influenced ‘politically correct’
statements. More people today are globe-trotters
gaining abundant grey matter and being sensitized to the dynamics of a
westernized society. Politically
correct statements are more outward in nature, while what matters the most are
those genuine statements - who we really are, what drives our intent, and what intent
shaped our statements and subsequent actions.
Politicians as well as page-3 persona are dissected for their faux pas, an
increased number of occurrences in the recent days, advertently or otherwise. It is no longer palatable to say physically handicapped,
instead the right reference is PWD – Person with Disabilities. For those who belong to my clan who are
typically five feet some (little)thing, we are happy when someone comments ‘you
know this applies to people who are not tall such as yourself!’ It is no more audacious to say, ‘you shorty!’ Interestingly the days when it becomes habitual
to refer as ‘vertically challenged’ are not far off!
Is it not enough to be ‘genuine’ and ‘sensitive’ rather than always be ‘politically
correct?’ Is there an end to how much we need to change in our external
communication to be politically ‘pleasing?’ If one extends help to the ‘PWDs’ with not
even an iota of understanding of having to be politically correct, is that
‘politically incorrect?’ How do we then address
elderly people or is it the ‘age challenged’ or more commonly ‘senior citizens,’
to whom one extends help and in turn receive their blessings?!
Some sections of the society do ‘empathize’ with other people’s feelings but
that has not stopped them from saying ‘this time the Circus has an act by ‘dwarfs’
and they are hilarious.’ If one must
cautiously allude as ‘I am taking my kids to the circus to see the act by the
‘vertically challenged,’ then do we lose the punch and is the essence
dissipated?!
An obese friend of my friend admonished him by saying ‘I am only
‘horizontally challenged!’ and how dare you call me fat?’ My friend was lost - like they say it was
like a ‘doosra / googly’ in the game of cricket! My ‘doosra’ to the beauty world and its ‘game
changers’ who have in their repertoire a plethora of products ranging from
cream to lotion to beauty treatment products, is it right to say, ‘skincare for
your dark skin?’ Instead, should they be
saying ‘perfect skincare if you are epidermis-color challenged?!’
Ads appear in newspaper stating ‘Cure for Baldness’ another
fast-expanding clan! Don’t these
companies learn to be politically correct?
A response in rhetoric ‘in today’s world gaining more face in the society’
is apt and to put things in the right perspective ‘follicular challenged’ appears
to be in perfect harmony with political correctness – truly hair-rising!
Extend the right attitude to differently abled people around us like a
true human-being, and don’t always have to bring them under the umbrella of
‘inclusivity.’ This world is beautiful in
its diversity and a better place for all of us to live in – why an external
focus for ‘politically (in)correct’ statements?! Appreciate politically pleasing feedback!
Very relevant subject. Very well written. These days schools don't even have compitition in sports. Everyone goes home with a certificate. What has the world come to. No question there has to be kindness, sensitivity and acceptance. A bigot cannot be acceoted. But the pressure of being politically correct is overwhelming sometimes.
ReplyDeleteAaron... thanks for your comments and very apt ones. Our views are getting skewed and we are becoming more intolerant, once again for reasons unknown. True intent drives everything...
DeleteHi. Our intent and actions should speak louder than the words we use
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely the way i feel too... thanks a lot... wish you had left your name
DeleteAtleast happy we grew up without the Instagram and fb world where everything is pretentious and everyone wanting to paint a ideal and perfect world far from reality. And all this politically correct statements needed to aid them. Acceptance of diversity is key...
ReplyDeleteSavitha
Thank you Savitha. True to the core what you have stated. What is to be appreciated is the true intent....just like they establish in criminal cases. Intolerance due to this pressure to always be politically right is even worse. Appreciate your comments...
DeleteVery apt and we'll written Prasanna. I guess (true) intent is more important than the verbiage used.. whether it is politically correct or not :)
ReplyDeleteThank you Srinath. Can't stress enough about the intent aspect. We are leaning more towards external communication aspects when it has introduced double standards with a wrong intent. Appreciate your time
DeleteBeautifully written Prasanna...Where the mind is free and ...is not a euphemism. We need space, we need to breathe and a dash of diplomacy doesn't hurt, but not more. Good one!
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely right...Tagore's poem is stands as a testament to this. Like he writes "....Where the world has not been broken up into fragments by narrow domestic walls...." but then that's exactly what we have set out to with lack of true intent. Appreciate your time and comments...
ReplyDeleteFairness as a mandatory quality in women has led to a big industry in fairness creams. A sustained campaign against this mindset and products have forced the largest product brand 'Fair & Lovely' to change their brand name to 'Glow & Lovely'. A small step but significant
ReplyDeleteYes very much Prakash. All it matters is the true intent underlying the thoughts and actions. Appreciate your time and comments
DeletePrasanna, it is very hard to write on sensitive topics with humour and without hurting anyone's sentiments. This post of yours brought a smile to me. Brilliant! I enjoyed the new coinages of "politically" correct terms. I think though that the term "politically correct" is a misnomer in this context. The intent, as another commenter pointed out, is to not hurt the other. The speaker/writer has three choices for addressing or describing another person of, well, less ability - point to the the feature or physical defect ("fat") or the disadvantage it brings ("unable to run fast") or to the outcome ("unable to win races" for example). In this, referring to the feature is brutal and hurting. Addressing a potential outcome is presumptuous (and perhaps less simple). So, the only option to be both respectful and still make a specific reference to a condition is to state the disadvantage in generic terms (instead of saying "unable to run fast" one can say "speed challenged"). Euphemistic expression is gentler and at least shows awareness and empathy. Thanks again, your writing is easy to read and hence achieves the thought-provocation very effectively.
ReplyDeleteThanks Dinesh....very right comments. I agree that Euphemism is gentler on the sense organs but I still worry about the intent. If the intent is right, and you do not want to hurt the other then that is the right approach. But then euphemism for the sake of but lacking a true intent is what hurts. If we can live less for the external world and instead focus more on teh inner.....because once words are shot like an arrow cannot be withdrawn.
ReplyDeleteAppreciate your time and comments
Good one Prasanna. Very well written.
ReplyDeleteWell worded ....and not 'veiled' !
ReplyDeleteThank you very much... for your time and comments
DeleteA very true but frustrating reality. The world is not the same as we knew it and will never be. One more reminder of our vintage!
ReplyDeleteOh yes very true.... thanks a lot Aruna.
DeleteThought provoking. The identified aspects are not necessarily western or being politically correct. If the feeling is genuinely respectful, one will find a way to be more respectful rather than trying to be more politically correct - as you have shown - can be cumbersome and could do more harm or sound artificial. Trying to be sensitive and respectful to each other - we owe it to each other.
ReplyDeleteThank you Prasanna
Can't agree more Guru... we owe it to each and every being around us. If the heart is pure and the intent is untainted it can work wonders...
DeleteAppreciate your time and comments
Prasanna, You are coining too many new word combinations enriching English language.
ReplyDeleteWe should separate communications among known acquittances/friends or strangers. For those whom you refer as vertically challenged, it is very common to be called "Kulla" in Kannada by classmates in school or college. After some initial response, I assume, it stops becoming serious matter. Is it not? It is JUST a nick name that may or may not stick. If No negative meaning or derogatory connotations, it stops being harmful.
But we dare not use that to strangers. For we don't know if it is politically correct or not.
So, level of political correctness one has to be is highly linked to the level of level of acquittance one has with other party.
Oh. Wait. All my comments mostly refer to oral communications. What you pointed out is doubly relevant in written/published communication where writer don't know the readers.
Your article triggered me to read more and I stumbled upon
https://bnp.org.uk/politically-correct-words/
Oh, Man, What all we have to be aware off.
Frankly, it is bit ridiculous.
Thanks AB... but the fact of the matter is one has to see what it means to the other person and how (s)he feels....
DeleteHence i allude to the basic intent. If that's good... which actually drives our thoughts which then drives actions which then decides the outcome... then that should suffice rather than having to be in duress to say the right thing externally...
What good is external life if internal cleansing has not happened...
Another reason for why i wrote is many follow double standards... say nice things for brownie points but inside carry hatred and in the back say bad things....
Then you say Level of Acquaintance.... and for that my answer is in the previous article 'familiarity breeds contempt' and with an Indian twist....
Thanks.....I visited the site URL you shared and it was interesting.
Appreciate your time and comments too.....
Absolutely, I have been monitoring it's effect on western countries which has brought society to its keens.
ReplyDeleteWe need to weigh any word based on the context not just label it bigoted blindly.
I agree 100% and that was teh premise of this article. The pressure to be always politically right can weigh heavy on one's shoulders; instead leave it to 'right intent' but then remember that you do not want to speak words that hurt the other person. Thanks...wish you had left your name...
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ReplyDeletePrasanna,
1. Interesting topic and expressed very well.
2. IMO, it is enough to be genuine and caring - political correctness be damned!
3. In the spirit of coining new words, and making contribution to the Queen's language, here is my 'alilu seve':
When one joins a yoga class, realisation dawns how he/she is 'flexibility challenged'. (Realising how far away one's own toes are when you bend and try to reach for them is only the beginning - especially when everyone around you seem to have miraculously flexible bodies!)
4. Many of the readers' reactions to this post and your responses to them are equally interesting and make for a very good reading.
Thanks and Regards - KSM
Thank you very much and very rightly said that the intent is important and needs to be genuine and caring. I like your 'flexibility challenged' narration and that too at a yoga class. Like always all others always can bend more than you can ;-)
DeleteDIFFERENTLY ABLED is the new coinage and I left that out in this write-up...but its all just the same. We need honest intent with a true care ... like the saying at the start of my write-up.
Thanks once again for your comments....